How to Stay Motivated

Today’s post is about how you shouldn’t look at likes, and comments as a level of status. I can say that I have too fallen in this abyss how social media can swallow you whole. This addiction of checking your phone on constant, when “likes” don’t stack up to other posts, or against other IG users who in comparison, make your accomplishments seem dismal. It is not what it’s all about. You might say, “You get this X amount of likes, comments, and this amount of followers compared to mine - how do you know how it feels like to get three likes, compared to your hundreds, or even thousand plus likes?” The thing is... I do. I started with zero, and I kept working at it, and my audience grew. After some time, it started to pick up.

Moving on, there are a lot of times I’ve noticed people who followed my work for years, and then all of a sudden, unfollowed me. I have said to myself plenty times, and you (the reader) might have too, “What did I do wrong?” These are the same people who I had great conversations with, or had some sort of connection in the art world. It all can be very disheartening. The hours you spend on your free time just getting to know someone is heavily frustrating when they move on without closure is a huge bummer. The human touch isn’t there like years ago. It raises concerns with anxiety, trust, and how to keep these people wanting more, and why the support is no longer there? Also, the walls build higher, and it’s like, “Why should I keep taking time out of my day to talk to everyone who might just not be there later?” Is it worth it? Yes! Move on, and keep going.

They always say all publicity is good publicity, and that’s very true, because an audience will always have good and bad - positive and negative, and why the hell not... let’s throw a neutral in there kind of feedback to stir up the pot. Social media is like the stock market, it will always be up and down, but you have to realize that if you want to share your story with the world, and make a name for yourself, you have to keep going, learn and be able to take critique. It’s how you get better. Never quit. 

5 Tips To Keep In Mind

1. Always be ready to accept failure.

2. Always treat people the way you want to be treated.

3. Get out there and study what your audience wants. Take action and start asking questions, and get creative with it.

4. Take a step back when you feel that you are on your phone/computer way too much.

5. Find motivation, and inspiration from everything, and everyone. Art is everywhere. It can be from working out, exploring, taking walks around your town, studying a favorite artist(s). Talk to your friends, family, and those who support you. It could be a humbling experience.

 

Just remember, you will fail every day, because it is how you grow, and how to accept your faults. It’s a much more humbling experience when you realize that. Hope you all have a great day and I hope this helped.

Source: How to Stay Motivated in Social Media

West Coast Road Trip - Day One (Part One)

Day One (Part One)

I have always wanted to do a road trip that extended throughout America since I was a young boy. Having to dream many times how cool it would be to see firsthand what the early explorers experienced. With many sunsets passed, this dream finally came true. As a 35-year-old man, I haven’t been this excited since the Philadelphia Phillies won the World Series in 2008.

Setting out on a two-week adventure with my partner in life, we knew that this was going to be the best trip we would ever make. Having the chance to be able to explore, see the country, and get away from every day from the hustle and bustle would be an amazing feeling.

The first stop on this super intensive visual adventurous rollercoaster was Estes Park, Colorado. Driving alongside the Rockies was visually breathtaking. No matter where you would look, there was something to see. From the red rocks below, to the snowcapped mountains above, it was mind blowing how beautiful they are with shades of grey and the haze of orange hue reflecting its way to view across the valley.

Before making way to check-in, Estes Lake is a relaxing spot to kick back before heading into town. With views so grand, I had no desire to think about normal day life. Soon after taking a few photos, realizing that we wanted to have some time to Explore Rocky Mountain National Park, we got back into the rental, and shot over to Ponderosa Lodge.

The location couldn't have been better, and for that price, it couldn't be beat. it was a perfect combo! Ponderosa lodge was really charming, and very laid back. With the river running right beside it. We were greeted nicely by the manager, where he was confused by why I was wearing an Oakland A’s hat, and Charlotte was wearing a Boston Redsox cap with the rental bearing Arizona tags. We joked about it, and talked a little baseball while he was setting up our room. We got to our room, and it was clean and we were satisfied. All we could ask for is a clean place to stay, with no bells and whistles. Equipped with two full sized mattresses, an outdoor patio, a fridge, and a very clean bathroom. For sixty dollars, that's one heck of a bargain.

 

After settling in, and 10 minutes later, we heard screaming. Not sure where it was coming from, so I peeked out the window, pushing the blinds down observing that an older couple having some words with the manager, and I was in total shock. Confusing why he was super cool to us. That is some real Jekyll and Mr. Hyde stuff right there. What we heard was that this couple was impatient about checking in, and the manager was yelling back, “I was trying to give her some compassion man! Her father just died. What is your problem?” The man said, I was just wondering how long will this will be?” The manager then said, “All you had to do is lay back and wait a minute while you were in line. You're an a****** man!” The man said, I want my money back, this is ridiculous!” Still going back and forth about who's an a******, then the man said I am not gonna take this, I want my money back!” The manager then said, “Her father died and worried about sixty bucks man! Get the F outta here! Meanwhile, All I was worried about is letting this fight cool down, and not walk by them and by some chance be brought into it. Definitely not how I do business, and I'll never speak to someone like that, but I minded my own business and we headed out to Rocky Mountain National Park soon after. Quietly, but enough to get-out-of-dodge.

…to be continued.

Making Friends on Social Media

 

The Top Five Know-How’s Making Friends on Social Media

 

With the world changing, and how less we've become to know someone in person, we are more involved to meet people online through social media. whether it be on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, or if you're one of those who'd like to find that lost love through Tinder. The question is, how in the world do you make friends on social media? 

As a product of Generation X, I have adapted to the high demand to be digitally connected to the world of today, and not at all afraid of change, but as I grow older, I have noticed a few things: The number of friends begin to dwindle down to the ones whom you can count on with one or two hands, those whom you can trust, share stories of life experiences, and having similar interests that spark conversation on the daily. In return, the number of followers on social media are vast. From family, friends of the family, to your boyfriend/girlfriends family and friends, to people you don't even know, or people you have met a long time ago, but have no interests in hanging out, and finally, the ones whom you love to talk and leave snarky comments on their Facebook wall for the quick spur of the moment conversations from a status or photo meme that sparks up conversation, because it made you LMAO. That was a lot to say. Phew!

Sometimes, you can meet someone that you genuinely like to talk to online. Just as you would in the real world that you can just connect with. Although they are real people, with real lives, problems, jobs and a life as you would expect, but you just can't seem to trust them. Why? Could it be that you need a voice to connect to their profile photo to confirm reality, to confirm that calling instead of texts are more human than other forms of communication? Are emoji’s enough? The desire of hearing someone is meaningful. The tone of someone's voice can attract us to want to hear more, or not at all. In person, you can see a person’s body language, how they react to the things they love, or hate. We can tell a lot about someone if they have a strong handshake, they give good hugs, and how they introduce themselves in social settings, like dinner parties, family, and business events. Online, a lot is lost. Mostly because people don't understand and know how to express themselves through texts. Most are lazy and want instant gratification by using acronyms, one letter words to fill out a conversation and with no feeling with simply using exclamations 

Have the past horror stories from the news embed this into our fear sensors that scream to our flight response? Obviously, there are warning signs which people who want too much too soon. I have some stories that would make you want to go EEEK, but always give that person a chance. I’m not saying you have to bring down your walls, and let the whole world know what you do without a filter, but all I’m saying is, take a few minutes of your time to reply. From my experiences, I’ve compiled the top five know-how's making friends on social media.

 

1.       Respond Accordingly

Yes, the growing amount of instant gratification is a problem nowadays, because we need it better and faster with technology. Now with social media we see the three dots in iMessage, or that so-and-so is typing in the background makes us feel anxious. Even more so when they type, and they end up just deleting everything they said. The anxious you asks them, “Hey, what were you typing?” They’ll respond with, “I didn't type anything.” Obviously this makes you irate, because this is something you can't turn off in the settings of your phone from the app. You have to stay calm and realize, and give them the benefit of doubt that they might be at work, someone is calling them, maybe they had a family emergency, or they just had to hit the bathroom. Don't expect an answer on the fly. Give that person time to respond, and when they respond, wait a few minutes meaning 15-30 minutes to respond back. It's a healthy alternative instead staring at your phone biting your fingernails, and pacing back and forth. If it's an important conversation, call them. Texting works for short messages.

 

2.       Be Kind and Respond

We are all always fighting time every day. With busy work weeks, cooking every day, and chores around the house, we sometimes forget to respond to our friend’s texts, phone calls, or notifications on social media. This is definitely an issue when you're trying to make friends. You could try spending 30 minutes a day (varies from person-to-person) reaching out. Even if you hit that like button from their message, it's still showing interest. Something is better than nothing.  Replying back to someone means you're engaging and you're taking back time to respond. It could benefit you and them.

 

3.       Spark Up The Conversation

You don't necessarily have to say,” Hello, how are you?” in a private message, but on their status, or photo upload. There's less of a chance that they will feel a reason not to respond, but If you like a photo, or status posted, you might ask yourself how do I do this? For example, if someone post a selfie, and you think they look nice, say something less abrasive. You could say “Hey, you're easy on the eyes” or “You did a nice job on your makeup - what kind do you use?” Be personable, but not intrusive where you make someone uncomfortable. Another example is to engage what their status is about a topic you’re interested in. Respond honest and be yourself and share your thoughts by being respectful to others who have responded in the thread.

 

4.       Pay It Forward

It's always good to help someone out when they're in need. In a professional setting, or in personal life. Making friends is all about trust from being honest, getting to know them with their, happiness, and being there for each other when tough times arise. If you're friend asks for a favor, try the best you can to help them out.  It could be a shoulder to lean on, or it could be helping them study for their exam. At the workplace you can be on the same team and you have to help each other out. Of course there's a balance to that. It has to work both ways to be beneficial to everyone. It can't be one sided.

 

5.       Build Relationships by Having Fun

Here in the social media world, amateurs, and professionals are looking to grow their following with goals in mind. Looking for new friends, followers, and even new employees can help market your brand to expand their reach, but you may ask yourself, “How do I do this?” The Solution is to be yourself and never lie about what you're doing. You must remember that this platform is for recognition, and you don't want new followers to lose their interests. Make it exciting with stories that are honest, interesting, or even controversial. For example, photos with no insight is like handing a resume for that next great job with a blank sheet of paper. Explain the photograph where it was shot, how you felt while photographing that scene, or how you achieved that cool effect in Photoshop. If your status is just a bunch of hashtags, or a vague sentence, then the attraction is very nil. In about short two sentences, you can explain a photograph. People love stories, so remember to tell yours.